The bigger YES burning inside
I was (and probably still am) notorious for enthusiastically saying yes, committing to something and figuring out the details later. I would frustrate everyone around me by double booking evenings, commiting to going on trips and then backing out at the last minute. Work wise, I’d over commit by volunteering on a million committees and piling it on until I just burned out.
Then Danielle LaPorte told me (and the rest of the world) to put a fence around your heart. And it took me a while to work it out but my version of this looks like: if someone is consistently causing you strife – change the focus. End the story. Create a new version of the relationship. But the bottom line is you do what you have to do to guard what you know is right and true for you. And OMG - the boundaries issues come up everyday when you start your money journey.
Marketers want you to buy their product, your friends want to have drinks, boyfriends want to go away for the weekend. And through it all you want to feel good and have fun. When you ask yourself – what is the right and true way that I want to live – and you live it, the choices become a lot easier.
Right in the credit card section of my wallet, I have a little piece of paper that reads:
Do you say yes without considering the impact on your money? How do you remind yourself to stay focused on the bigger picture?